It Takes a Village, It Takes a Village, It Takes a Village

It takes a village to raise a child.

It’s been said over and again, but we seem to have forgotten.

It takes a village to raise a child.

When Facebook and other social media were first dreamt up, I’m sure their respective creators envisioned online villages, I’m sure they envisioned people reaching out to people across time and geography, forming communities in ways that communities had never been formed before. I’m sure their visions were grand.

This week, in my eyes, has put a big ol’ pin prick to those visions, resulting in a big huge POP—the busting of those grand visions. This week in social media has done nothing to build communities, and everything to tear people down.

It takes a village to raise a child.

It’s so easy for us to sit at our desks in our little cubicles and make comments. It’s so easy for us to glue ourselves to our cell phones and make judgments. It’s so easy to escape into our individual bubbles, to simultaneously feel like we are a part of a movement, and feel like we are not responsible for the movement. It’s so easy for us to not care about the impact of our remarks. It’s so easy for us to feel anonymous.

It takes a village to raise a child.

In recent weeks social media has been rife with misogynistic commentary, people so ready to blame women and moms for everything and anything—people so readily missing the mark.

It takes a village to raise a child.

I think mommy blogs and online mommy groups were originally intended as a way for moms to support moms, and for moms to feel surrounded. I think there has been a shift toward criticism and alienation. Even from people who aren’t moms, even from other moms.

It takes a village to raise a child, although this is no longer something that is at the forefront of our consciousness. We need to be re-taught the value of a village. We need to rethink our words, reexamine our practices and opinions. We need to think critically about our personal contributions to the village.

It takes a village to raise a child.

Because I’ve been that mom that had to stop and think critically about my contributions to the village, I can tell you now, without reservation, it takes a village to raise a child.

We can’t hide behind our computers and cell phones. We can’t hide behind the latest news stories. We can’t fuel the fires of judgment. Our comments are not harmless. If social media insists on misogyny we must not participate. When an accident occurs we must be kind. If we are not present at the time of an incident, we must refrain from commenting. When a child’s life is in danger, this is no time to lay blame.

It takes a village to raise a child.

All beings, across all time and geography, and including animal species, have worked to protect children at all costs. The life of a child has always mattered.  We’ve been swimming in some really grey, ugly, murky waters of late, it’s time to act, it’s time to change.

It takes a village to raise a child.

Let’s step out from behind our social media screens and work together to protect our children and to support their mothers. Let’s have empathy in times of need. Let’s have laughter in times of joy. Let’s build up, let’s not tear down.

The village is crumbling before our children’s eyes. Be not anonymous. Do something. Save it.


Published by mtg

A woman. A mother. A wife. A writer. This is me.

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