Finding Freedom in Labels as an INFJ

Labels get a bad rap. This happens due to the tendency people have to use labels as neat and tidy boxes within which we can make sense of the world and our fellow humanity. Like a mother trying to keep order in a toddler’s playroom, it can feel good and uncomplicated to be able toContinue reading “Finding Freedom in Labels as an INFJ”

I Am Woman: 2020

I remember walking into an HMV as a high school student, past all the disc covers of Goo Goo Dolls and Gin Blossoms, and asking an employee for help. He took me to a back wall, and after some minutes of flipping through CD covers, pulled up their sole copy of what I was lookingContinue reading “I Am Woman: 2020”

Make Space for the Pivots

Recently, I came to understand that there is a vast difference between being defensive and defending oneself. One comes from a position of lack; it says, in your body language and the tone of your voice, that you feel like less. The other comes from a position of power—not power over others, but power withinContinue reading “Make Space for the Pivots”

Straddling the Cultural Hyphen

I went for a walk with my nonno one day. I must have been eight or nine. He kept repeating the same word over and over again as we hunted in nooks and crevices. Wash-a-room. Wash-a-room. I couldn’t understand why we had left my grandparents home, containing two full bathrooms, in search for an alternateContinue reading “Straddling the Cultural Hyphen”

Self-Care & Pandemic Parenting

I’ve been having a hard time focusing lately. I’ll sit down at my computer in the morning, prepared to get to work, and I’ll just stare at the screen, unable to process my next steps. There are too many balls in the air, too many things requiring my attention.  The kids have been pushed to beingContinue reading “Self-Care & Pandemic Parenting”

#getpolitical

It was on a popular mommy blog’s post about the upcoming US elections that I read the comment (and I’m paraphrasing), “I thought this was a mom blog. Don’t make it political,” and I was incensed. Or, annoyed at the very least. The mere idea that a mom blog should not be political upset meContinue reading “#getpolitical”

Random Thoughts: Introvert Mood

I was feeling a bit blue today. One thing about being an #introvert personality, and specifically an #INFJ personality, is that feelings come in a big, often overwhelming way. It can be hard to process… often that makes me seem aloof, because I’m so caught up in my head, but on the inside there are whirlwinds to contend with.Continue reading “Random Thoughts: Introvert Mood”

Random Thoughts: Desperately Seeking

I’ve always been bothered by the “desperately seeking” posts that I often see online.Desperately seeking mother of pearl lace-trimmed curtains.Desperately seeking mahogany-coloured bar stools.Desperately seeking stuff and more stuff.But I find that it bothers me more than ever, now.Maybe it’s because so many have lost jobs.Maybe it’s because so many lost lives.Maybe it’s because theContinue reading “Random Thoughts: Desperately Seeking”

Random Thoughts: When one person’s opinions hinder the human rights of another, they’re no longer entitled to their opinions.

Every time a movement happens that gives me hope for the future of my kids, I always make the mistake of reading comments sections. Then I lose hope all over again. Why people work so hard to resist the idea of human rights for all boggles my mind. I once worked for someone who embodiedContinue reading “Random Thoughts: When one person’s opinions hinder the human rights of another, they’re no longer entitled to their opinions.”

We Are Born the People We’re Meant to Be

I believe we are born the people we were always meant to be. Whether or not we remain that person over the course of our lifetime, that’s another thing. But I believe our true self is always the same.  When I was five years old I was a flower girl, along with another little girlContinue reading “We Are Born the People We’re Meant to Be”